What kind of world do we live in when virginity is frowned upon?

The truth of this title amazes me. What is so wrong with virginity? I wish someone could tell me. Sure, I hear, "Well, you're missing out.." or "Everyone's doing it..." maybe this one, "C'mon, don't be so uptight..." Hm...sure sounds like some pretty unconvincing information. I'm sorry that I want to save me, all of me for my husband. I'm sorry that I have the self control to avoid tempting situations that would cause me, or the one I love to stumble. I'm sorry that I can't relate to you in this way, because I am protecting my heart and the heart of the man I will marry. Actually, no, I'm most certainly not sorry. I am sorry that the world has convinced us that being a virgin is wrong. That you can't "get with someone" and so you're a loser. LIES! I've talked to so many girls that have been fed this crap for so long that they give themselves away. Girls biggest desire is to be loved, if you follow my blog at all, you would see that is evident with every girl on this planet. So, in order to be loved, they give in to their boyfriends prodding, they give up their purity to satisfy them for a moment, they have their virginity snatched out from under them. Girls have come to me broken. They don't know what to do. They want to change. Or they don't. And they are lost. Caught in this limbo of never really knowing what true love is. Always going from boy to boy, (or back to the last jerk that used them) thinking they will find it there. But it's never there. Because that's not love. And I am not going to just point fingers at the boys. But one of the most influential people in my life say this, "Boys are pigs, and girls are stupid." Now, I realize I'm going to offend some feminists out there, but I don't care. Get over it, because you know it's true. Boys are pigs, and girls are stupid. Girls, I see what you are doing here too. Just check the post below this. You are trying to become the pursuers in relationships. Stop it. Let the men, be men. You weren't made to fill that role. God doesn't want you being the man in any relationship. It's wrong, it's not your place. But don't allow just any boy to pursue you. Don't dress immodestly, lest you get a boy who's only after your body and what you can offer him. YOU DON'T WANT THAT! There is so much more! It's okay to be a virgin. Sure, it's really hard. Sure, you are a teenager and those desires to be loved in a physical way are there. I believe you. Everyone has those moments, but you can fight it. You can. I see living examples of men and women who fight for their purity DAILY. I'm 19 years old and a virgin. I've only ever kissed a boy, and from here on out, I'm saving even that for my wedding day. It's hard to set goals and abide by them. It's hard to find a guy or girl who believes the same as you and desires your purity remain intact than the desires of the moment. It. Is. Hard. But it's worth it. Don't go give your heart to just anyone. Make sure he's the right one. And when you find him, don't give him your body. He has no right to it. You have no right to his. Keep your hands to yourselves! It's not such a hard concept. Stop being selfish, and live the way that might be more difficult, but is definitely more rewarding. And you know what excuse I hate more than any other?? "I just want experience so I know what I'm doing on my wedding night." Bull. You don't need experience, I mean, c'mon. That's a total cop out. It is. If you can't wait for that person, then you don't love that person. You are acting out of your own selfishness and not out of love. So, if this is you, I'm not trying to condemn you at all. I'm just asking you to consider a better way. Because there is a better way. Trust me. I have never heard of a married couple that waited for each other, who regretted their choice. NEVER. It's worth the wait. And if you no longer have this precious gift of virginity, it's NEVER too late to start fresh. To have God clean up your heart and heal the brokenness, and help you wait from this day forward. I know sex is an awkward subject, and I'm obviously not much older or at all older than most of you reading this, but it's important. It is. I don't wanna make you guys uncomfortable....well....actually, if you know me, you probably won't believe that. But I want what's best for you. I really do. And being a virgin isn't something that you should be ashamed of, losing your virginity isn't something that should take you out of the running for an incredible marriage, and there is a way to do it. Christ knows exactly where you are, and what you are thinking about and who you are thinking about while you read this. If you are the one who has fallen into sexual sin, you can be made clean. If you know people who have, you can pray for their renewal and rebuilding in Christ. Virginity, I can't say it enough, is NOT something to be ashamed of. Be proud. You are the minority. You are proving society wrong. If you don't believe me that there are people out there who have saved this sacred part of themselves for marriage, that's fine. You don't have to believe me. But I am a virgin and I am not ashamed of it. Sure, it's hard. It's not always fun. You might get made fun of. But you know what? It is worth it. Don't be ashamed of virginity. Don't have sex with someone, just to be accepted into some social group. I gotta tell you guys, high school friendships, they seem important now, but when you're gone, very few remain in tact. You have no reason to try and impress these other kids with how many people you've slept with. It's not impressive. If you are a virgin, don't give that up. Don't give in to the pressure that this world puts on you. And if you're not a virgin, don't believe the lies that since you've had sex, there's no turning back. You are not ruined. You can be made new. And just because you've started down that road doesn't mean you are obligated to continue down it. I know a lot of you will. I am sorry. I'm sorry that this world has lied to you. Straight to your face. I'm sorry. You can be made fresh and new and you can start over. It's a choice. I hope you choose freedom from the chains of this bondage. I know this is kind of awkward to hear from me. I know I'm only 19 and many of you are older and wiser than I. You are the reason I know all this stuff. You have done a wonderful job as leaders and counselors in my life, and I don't want to seem like I'm just a know it all here. But I have seen enough broken marriages, broken homes, and broken lives to know that sex is important. Society tells us that it's not a big deal. But sex matters. Adulterous sex leads to ruined marriages, soiled relationships, and broken hearts, and we don't have to become a part of that story. Your past is the past, and whether you were raised in a broken home or not, it is your choice how your life will turn out now. You have the choice to follow God into a wonderful marriage, or to follow Satan into the downward spiral he has set up for you. Choose the light.

This has to change

Oh my goodness women...I simply do not understand you. I am a woman, and I don't understand how we work, or why we do what we do. But ladies...I am ever so disappointed in how we often act. I have to say before I start into this, I used to hate girls. We have too much drama, we are way too emotional, and honestly, sometimes I see this used as an excuse to do whatever we want. We are insecure, when there is no reason for that, and really we blow everything out of proportion. I found that, by going to Ozark, I don't hate girls. I just don't like when we are fake. Ladies, I know that we all want love. We do. Deny it if you wish, but I see past that mask. I have never met a girl that didn't want love. Maybe not romantic love necessarily, but love. Love from our parents, love from our youth pastors, love from family and friends. We live on love. We thrive on love. And when we don't get love, we seek it out. In all the wrong places. I love all the girls that are reading this, I'm sure of it. Because, I've found that girls are really easy to love when they are real. I know we all have masks we hide behind. Masks of "popularity," masks that show we "have it all together," masks that cover up the hurt with a cute little smile. I know we have those. We are afraid of rejection, of not being good enough, and of missing the right guy. There are so many fears when it comes to love. I understand that. But what we really have to think about is how we are pursing this desire to be loved. Are we tripping over ourselves trying to get just anyone to like us. Are we chasing down boys that will fulfill our selfish physical desires, the desire to be wanted and needed? Or are we following closely behind God, dancing with Him, until He lets the right man cut in? I have a feeling that most of the time, we are just running. Running from God into the arms of any man that will have us. Why? Why do we do that? You don't want to be hurt, yet you let yourself change and mold into the image of lust for some boy. Why? Girls, I am disappointed. In myself, in you, in us. I've allowed myself to do some of the things that I hate seeing girls do. Dressing immodestly to attract attention to themselves. Flirting with anyone that would give me attention. I know I've been sheltered my whole life, and a lot of you don't think I understand where you are coming from, but we all struggle, we all stumble, but God can always lead us back to Him. Do you really think a guy who "loves" you for your body, loves you? If so, you're fooling yourselves! I have gone to lunch with girlfriends who's shirts were so low-cut that I couldn't help but see! And I am a girl, I don't wanna see that. How do you think a guy feels? You are setting them up for failure. Why do you think that there is a lack of chivalry, and good men in this world? Why? Not because they aren't out there, because I have met a ton of nice, Godly men, but because we are proving to them that they don't need to be. They don't need to honor and respect us. Because we don't honor and respect ourselves or each other. We tear each other down, and dress like we just want "love" for the night. You don't want that. I KNOW YOU DON'T. I know it's hard. It's hard to be modest. I get that. The culture tells us the less you wear, the more attractive you are. That's simply not true. It tells us that you need make up to be beautiful. IT'S A LIE! Gosh. I wish you could see yourselves in the eyes of Christ. Or even in the eyes of other girls. You are beautiful. You are. You don't need to show off your body. That is something that should be reserved for your husband. What good is it to go from relationship to relationship? You are setting you and your future husband up for divorce! Do you want that? I know you don't. Don't you want a healthy marriage? Don't you want to look back on your life and tell your kids without regret that you lived your life for Christ? I know that many reading this have lost their virginity, or have gone far enough that you don't feel like there is any going back for you. I'm here to tell you you're wrong. All sin is equal in the eyes of our Father. All sin. Sexual sin included. You can always start over. You can be a renewed virgin, patiently waiting on your prince. Ladies, you can't tell me it's impossible to wait. You can't. I have known tons of women who have waited, and I've met tons of men who have too. It's possible. It might be hard, and God never said it would be easy, but it's worth it. I'm 19 years old and have only ever kissed, and I have decided that from here on out I'm saving my next first kiss for my husband and only him. We can join together to protect each other's hearts, to keep each other accountable, and to remind each other of the love God has so willingly poured out on us. God knew what He was doing when He told us to wait. He wants this to be special, and when we treat it flippantly, we are telling God He's wrong. I love you girls, so much. I want the best for you. I want you to know that you don't have to dress, act, or be a certain way to get a guy. You don't have to lean on drinking, smoking, exploiting yourself, to find a guy. Sure, all those things might get you one, but that's not the kind of boy you're going to want. I promise. You deserve better. You are better. You are loved.

Watch this, this kid has some of the best advice on the topic

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqF_PtugyBk