What kind of world do we live in when virginity is frowned upon?

The truth of this title amazes me. What is so wrong with virginity? I wish someone could tell me. Sure, I hear, "Well, you're missing out.." or "Everyone's doing it..." maybe this one, "C'mon, don't be so uptight..." Hm...sure sounds like some pretty unconvincing information. I'm sorry that I want to save me, all of me for my husband. I'm sorry that I have the self control to avoid tempting situations that would cause me, or the one I love to stumble. I'm sorry that I can't relate to you in this way, because I am protecting my heart and the heart of the man I will marry. Actually, no, I'm most certainly not sorry. I am sorry that the world has convinced us that being a virgin is wrong. That you can't "get with someone" and so you're a loser. LIES! I've talked to so many girls that have been fed this crap for so long that they give themselves away. Girls biggest desire is to be loved, if you follow my blog at all, you would see that is evident with every girl on this planet. So, in order to be loved, they give in to their boyfriends prodding, they give up their purity to satisfy them for a moment, they have their virginity snatched out from under them. Girls have come to me broken. They don't know what to do. They want to change. Or they don't. And they are lost. Caught in this limbo of never really knowing what true love is. Always going from boy to boy, (or back to the last jerk that used them) thinking they will find it there. But it's never there. Because that's not love. And I am not going to just point fingers at the boys. But one of the most influential people in my life say this, "Boys are pigs, and girls are stupid." Now, I realize I'm going to offend some feminists out there, but I don't care. Get over it, because you know it's true. Boys are pigs, and girls are stupid. Girls, I see what you are doing here too. Just check the post below this. You are trying to become the pursuers in relationships. Stop it. Let the men, be men. You weren't made to fill that role. God doesn't want you being the man in any relationship. It's wrong, it's not your place. But don't allow just any boy to pursue you. Don't dress immodestly, lest you get a boy who's only after your body and what you can offer him. YOU DON'T WANT THAT! There is so much more! It's okay to be a virgin. Sure, it's really hard. Sure, you are a teenager and those desires to be loved in a physical way are there. I believe you. Everyone has those moments, but you can fight it. You can. I see living examples of men and women who fight for their purity DAILY. I'm 19 years old and a virgin. I've only ever kissed a boy, and from here on out, I'm saving even that for my wedding day. It's hard to set goals and abide by them. It's hard to find a guy or girl who believes the same as you and desires your purity remain intact than the desires of the moment. It. Is. Hard. But it's worth it. Don't go give your heart to just anyone. Make sure he's the right one. And when you find him, don't give him your body. He has no right to it. You have no right to his. Keep your hands to yourselves! It's not such a hard concept. Stop being selfish, and live the way that might be more difficult, but is definitely more rewarding. And you know what excuse I hate more than any other?? "I just want experience so I know what I'm doing on my wedding night." Bull. You don't need experience, I mean, c'mon. That's a total cop out. It is. If you can't wait for that person, then you don't love that person. You are acting out of your own selfishness and not out of love. So, if this is you, I'm not trying to condemn you at all. I'm just asking you to consider a better way. Because there is a better way. Trust me. I have never heard of a married couple that waited for each other, who regretted their choice. NEVER. It's worth the wait. And if you no longer have this precious gift of virginity, it's NEVER too late to start fresh. To have God clean up your heart and heal the brokenness, and help you wait from this day forward. I know sex is an awkward subject, and I'm obviously not much older or at all older than most of you reading this, but it's important. It is. I don't wanna make you guys uncomfortable....well....actually, if you know me, you probably won't believe that. But I want what's best for you. I really do. And being a virgin isn't something that you should be ashamed of, losing your virginity isn't something that should take you out of the running for an incredible marriage, and there is a way to do it. Christ knows exactly where you are, and what you are thinking about and who you are thinking about while you read this. If you are the one who has fallen into sexual sin, you can be made clean. If you know people who have, you can pray for their renewal and rebuilding in Christ. Virginity, I can't say it enough, is NOT something to be ashamed of. Be proud. You are the minority. You are proving society wrong. If you don't believe me that there are people out there who have saved this sacred part of themselves for marriage, that's fine. You don't have to believe me. But I am a virgin and I am not ashamed of it. Sure, it's hard. It's not always fun. You might get made fun of. But you know what? It is worth it. Don't be ashamed of virginity. Don't have sex with someone, just to be accepted into some social group. I gotta tell you guys, high school friendships, they seem important now, but when you're gone, very few remain in tact. You have no reason to try and impress these other kids with how many people you've slept with. It's not impressive. If you are a virgin, don't give that up. Don't give in to the pressure that this world puts on you. And if you're not a virgin, don't believe the lies that since you've had sex, there's no turning back. You are not ruined. You can be made new. And just because you've started down that road doesn't mean you are obligated to continue down it. I know a lot of you will. I am sorry. I'm sorry that this world has lied to you. Straight to your face. I'm sorry. You can be made fresh and new and you can start over. It's a choice. I hope you choose freedom from the chains of this bondage. I know this is kind of awkward to hear from me. I know I'm only 19 and many of you are older and wiser than I. You are the reason I know all this stuff. You have done a wonderful job as leaders and counselors in my life, and I don't want to seem like I'm just a know it all here. But I have seen enough broken marriages, broken homes, and broken lives to know that sex is important. Society tells us that it's not a big deal. But sex matters. Adulterous sex leads to ruined marriages, soiled relationships, and broken hearts, and we don't have to become a part of that story. Your past is the past, and whether you were raised in a broken home or not, it is your choice how your life will turn out now. You have the choice to follow God into a wonderful marriage, or to follow Satan into the downward spiral he has set up for you. Choose the light.